A Lesson on Disappointments.

A Thought Adjuster Speaks - Lesson # 120
January 31, 2005.

The Beloved One: "As all humans suffer disappointments from time to time, this is an important subject to discuss. This is another lesson that needs to be learned, especially when expectations may be set too high, and need to be turned down a notch when probabilities reach a level of unreality. At times it is much wiser to let matters unfold, and not set your sights too high, because of the likelihood of your being disappointed. This is especially the case in the area of friendships, for friends can royally let you down when they are still learning to be good and dependable friends. Many so-called friendships have a self-serving component of hidden agendas, so always search your heart, and be honest with yourself to never let anyone down when you make a promise, for this is the shortest road to losing friends.

"It is always disappointing when someone you thought you could count on lets you down, for such disappointments are not easily forgotten, and they can quite easily turn into resentment. Resentment is a mental poison, so you need to work on forgiveness. Here you see that disappointments can also have side effects for which to watch out. Even when disappointments are hard to take, and upset you, be very careful not to fall in this trap of seeing them as personal hurts. This is another area in which to foster self-discipline. It is interesting to note, that many so-called friendships end there and then. This can also be a big cause for strife in families, when some member becomes thoughtless towards another, and promises things without following through.

"Even some parents fail to keep promises, and when an adequate explanation is not forthcoming, distrust sets in, which on the part of the child can be very hard to regain. It is always the best policy when you have promised something, which you are unable to follow through on, and when you know that you cannot possibly follow through on the promise, that you say so. Honesty is always the best policy. A fickle personality is not likely to be welcome anywhere, but likely seen as the rolling stone that gathers no moss. Indeed, lasting friendships are not only built on being of kindred spirit, but also on dependability. Dependability is a wonderful character trait to develop, but since it is an almost unconscious acquirement, it also stands out as the most laudable when you later look back over your life, and realize such important character achievements to be a true success.

"It is what life is about; that through living life, you become a mature, stable, and harmonious person. Let us now take this into the area of dependability. It is the easiest way of all to follow that magnificent example of the Master, Jesus, who definitely had his disappointments to work through, and yet He bore no grudge against anyone and was free to love everyone and be interested in each human he chanced to meet. His dependability carried Him to the cross, as He was fulfilling what He came to do, which was to show all humans of all ages that God loves them unconditionally and will never let them down. He taught humans how to love God, and seek to do God's will. This, together with bringing an end to the Lucifer rebellion, was His mission. By living a human life, He also completed His own Master Son-ship training to experientially earn the right to become the Ruler of the universe of his creation. The Father in heaven enjoys it when His mortal and celestial children learn their lessons well."